Using simple techniques Moms can learn how easily they can
whisper relaxing phrases to their babies during pregnancy,
delivery, and post-partum. Dr. Linda Miles, inspires and
instructs Moms, using a practical, proven effective method,
which calms both the child and Mom, while building a stronger
emotional and physical bond between the two. And Dads can join
in, too.
When Moms are anxious, babies feel that anxiety. Research has
shown that a stressed Mom creates a stressed baby, causing the
fetus’ heart to beat faster. When levels of stress hormones are
too high for extended periods of time, both Mom and the baby’s
mental and physical health suffer.
In 1973 Dr. Miles used natural childbirth with her son,
Christopher Brett. She found Lamaze helpful, but after that
pregnancy she wanted an even more stress free birth. She wanted
less stress for both her and her child. Quickly, she realized
the tremendous benefit listening with headphones to individually
recorded, soothing music with a familiar voice would have. Here
was a simple way to remind her to relax. When she was a bundle
of nerves, there was an easy comfort with just the flip of a
switch. Then, she could share, gently whispering, what she heard
with her baby. To her surprise the relaxation practice brought
deep calm not only to her, but to baby Brett, too.
With her initial personal success as a Mommy Whisperer, Dr.
Miles studied and has used these relaxation techniques
successfully for over 30 years with her clients and friends.
After the stress of the pregnancy with her first child, a client
of Dr. Miles used the Mommy Whisperer technique for her second
child with entirely different results. She was calm throughout
the experience, with less stress on her. Therefore, there was
less stress on her child. She had a peaceful pregnancy and
delivery. Because Mommy Whisperer's reduce stress on themselves
and their child, they can enhance the mother-child bond after
the baby is born.
Using simple relaxation strategies, parents actually affect the
physical structure of the baby's developing brain. The patterns
we learn, affect how we cope with stress and with life.
While soothing her baby, Mom is actually teaching her child to
self-soothe. When you soothe your baby with whispers, they may
develop a pattern of self-soothing that works under stress. And
the opposite happens too. If Mom or anyone is loud and reactive
under stress, the child develops that pattern and responds that
way to stress. The brain loves the familiar, so how we train our
children, becomes their coping strategy. So, whisper to your
child, "I am so happy you are here." “I love you so much.” “You
are so beautiful.” “Everything is okay.” This gives them safety
to learn and explore.
Copyright 2005 Linda Miles Ph.D
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