Modern technology hasn’t solved any of the problems of creating
and preserving a good relationship. Computers and the internet
have merely added a new wrinkle in old pattern of love and loss.
With websites that specialize in matching people up according to
whatever criteria they choose, there are more and more people
finding each other but, unfortunately, not many manage to stay
together. While internet dating services may make it easier for
people in one location to find people in a different location,
it does absolutely nothing to give them the tools they need to
stay together once they’ve met.
“Beware of dangerous waters” with online relationships has
become the password of the 21st Century. There are weirdoes
everywhere, not only on the internet, and the same precautions
that you would take meeting and starting a relationship with
someone face to face should be maintained in online
relationships, only more so. The real problem with online
relationships is the users’ increased capacity to lie about who
they really are and what they really want.
Meeting in chat rooms and communicating by emails often can lead
to serious misrepresentations from both parties. Oftentimes when
two online daters first meet in person, there is some initial
shock. You may be a single woman, mid 30’s, of average height
and weight and you may represent yourself as a 22 year old
Goddess. More common in online relationships are the men who
pose as singles looking for relationships, and are actually
married and looking to cheat on their wives.
Even with background checks, photo exchanges and the like, there
is no guarantee the people you meet online are anything like the
people they say they are. But, alas, this has more or less
always been the way it’s been, even before the internet came
along.
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