So you're going to become a father. Now is not the time to
panic. You've got lots of time to get used to the idea, before
that new life you helped create, arrives to join your own. These
tips for a first-time Dad will help you to survive the pre-baby
and post-birth jitters.
Be supportive of your partner during the pregnancy. Some women
have a more difficult time than others, and the fluctuation of
hormones can bring on everything from mood swings to what seems
to be unreasonable irritation with you, and everything else.
While you may not understand her moods, remember that they are
transient, and weather them in whatever way works best for you
both. She may be irritated, but would appreciate a simple
gesture like flowers, a foot rub, or even a cup of tea without
having to get up. You'll find your own paths to peace, as the
pregnancy progresses.
When the baby arrives, don't be upset if you don't fall in love
immediately. You're excited to be a father, but often men think
they are failing in some respect, when they don't feel the same
overwhelming bond that a mother does. But you didn't carry
another life inside you for nine months. So one of the best tips
for a first-time Dad, is to give yourself time to love, and be
loved back.
Because you have been basically on the "outside" of things until
the birth, you may not feel you're really an integral part of
their life. Nothing could be further from the truth, because you
are now a father, and with that comes all the responsibilities
and worries that a mother has.
Parenting isn't done alone, it's done together, with the two of
you supporting each other, giving each other breaks from the
routine and stresses, as well as taking pleasure in watching
your child grow and thrive, together.
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