If you’re going the increasingly popular route of personalizing
your own wedding vows, you’re probably looking for some tips to
make your vows as special, meaningful, and eloquent as you can.
This is something that will take time beforehand so that you can
prepare yourself and become completely comfortable with what
you’re saying. Remember, you’re not just saying pretty words,
you’re stating your wedding vows --
words from the heart that aim to express if only a fraction of
how important this bond of love is to you.
The most important thing you can do is to rehearse your vows
until you know them like the back of your hand. Work towards
making the words sound as though they are as natural as if you’d
thought them up right there, and were speaking from that little
touch of Shakespeare in your brain. This will diminish hesitancy
and constant note-reading, and will give a much more heartfelt
impression.
Here are some other tips:
* Come up with certain “landmarks” within your vows that will
act as mental cues to help you to continue without pausing to
remember what comes next.
* Rehearse your vows out loud, until you feel completely
“conversationally comfortable” with them. This will make you
feel secure in your words, and will help you to concentrate more
on the way you are saying them, instead of just remembering what
you are saying. Rehearsing your vows out loud will also help you
to trust yourself more with the words you’ve chosen, and you
will feel much less artificial when the time comes that you are
saying them to your future spouse.
* Keep eye contact with your future spouse. This is not only
romantic to watch for those attending the wedding, but it will
be all the more meaningful to your true love. And what’s more,
you’ll find yourself feeling the full emotional force of your
words as you gaze adoringly into the eyes of the one who is
gazing adoringly back at you.
* Speak clearly, and be sure of your pronunciation before you
get up in front of everyone.
* Remember that you aren’t the only one who is nervous. Smile
lovingly, hold hands if it is appropriate, and truly feel the
words that you’re saying. Let your future spouse feel at ease
because you love him or her just that much.
* Keep a good mental attitude. Don’t think to yourself, “How am
I going to survive this?” Instead, think, “This is it; I’m
joining with the person I love. This is the best day of my life.”
* Vary your voice tonality and speed as you say your vows. This
helps you to convey energy when you need to, and when you slow
down a bit, you’ll show true heart.
Practice your vows, be ready to say them, and you’ll find that
you’ll be much less frightened, much more thrilling and, above
all, a true romantic. You’ll enjoy yourself a great deal more
and will remember this tremendous moment forever.
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