Awesome Dad's Top Ten Communication Intentions
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An Awesome Dad in by no means perfect. But that itself is
perfect, because imperfection allows us to really understand the
personal evolution our children are going through with us. The
definition of an Awesome Dad, then, is the father who stays in
the game, shows up fully and sets powerful intentions to grow
into. Here are some:
I listen with my entire being - and without judgment. I seek
first to understand and appreciate what my children say. From
that vantage point, I will build their trust in me and be most
supportive.
I see others as equals, neither superior nor inferior to me.
Every person is a unique individual, just like everyone else on
the planet. (hee hee)! We each have our own journey and everyone
we encounter is integral to our life's objectives. Children are
no less important and should be treated with equal respect.
I engage my curiosity completely. I truly want to understand and
try to grasp all that is going on for my children. I want to see
the world afresh from their perspectives and glean new insights
through them. I ask questions without an agenda.
I consider all perspectives and choose consciously. In this
world of infinite possibilities, I seek to understand where
everyone is coming from and only then choose what resonates
most. I share this process with those I love.
First, do no harm! I communicate to foster understanding and
growth but never to hurt. "Sticks and stones..." I know my words
can cut deeper, and the resulting wounds take longer to heal.
I tell stories that speak to the heart. When I speak from the
heart, my words penetrate other's hearts. Parables and personal
stories are easy to accept and are rarely accusatory, though
often funny and informative.
I articulate the nuances. I use a rich vocabulary to communicate
distinctions that will help to raise awareness and expand my
family’s appreciation of life.
I understand the power of my touch. From a gentle touch on the
cheek, to a vigorous backrub, to wrestling on the floor, I
communicate my love through the powerful medium of touch. And I
know when to refrain as well.
I share what's there. I discuss difficult issues that warrant
open communication without fear. I believe open communication
will lead to the greatest family unity, even though the journey
may be difficult.
My actions are congruent with my values. I am keenly aware that
my actions speak louder than my words. The best communication is
when words and actions match perfectly. Values in action...
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