The signs of cheating spouse can vary for each individual. Some
people are just plain better at deception than others. If you
have a suspicion that your spouse may be secretly hiding an
affair with another individual whatever you do do not confront
your mate. Confronting your spouse can possibly make the affair
harder to prove because they will go to even greater lengths to
hide what is really going on. Instead, go over the list of signs
and if your significant other is showing or has shown more than
a few of these it may be a good idea to hire a professional to
get you solid evidence.
A few very common signs of a cheating spouse include:
*A change in sex life: The cheater wants nothing to do with sex,
wants a lot more sex, or has unexplained sexual requests or
utilizes new sexual techniques. *A sudden change in appearance:
He/She is working out all of a sudden; their taste in clothing
has changed, change in cologne.
*The cheater has a definite attitude change towards everyone in
the household especially the mate, picking fights for no reason.
*Unexplained absences, working late, hang up phone calls.
*The cheater may begin to find fault in his/her spouse to try to
justify the affair. *Unrecognized and frequently called phone
numbers on your mates cell phone bill.
*Leaving home during an argument, many cheaters will provoke a
fight so they can leave the home to call or visit the other
person. *Taking business or leisure trips alone
*Having new friends
*Taking showers as soon as returning home
*Will do the laundry when they never used to, or at a time when
they normally would not. They may be trying to hide the signs of
smoke, lipstick, bodily fluids, etc.
*Smelling of perfume or alcohol *The Mileage on his/her vehicle
seems excessive. *Their use of the computer or internet is
excessive or secretive.
*A gut feeling (intuition is real)
If you are familiar with one or more of these signs, you may
have a problem on your hands. Common advice I give clients that
are suspicious of their spouse is to keep a journal of their
spouse's activities for two weeks. This will help establish a
pattern and make it easier for an investigator to prove or
disprove infidelity. It is not easy to admit that your spouse
may be having an affair. Infidelity does not discriminate. It
can affect anyone of any race, color, or creed. It does not
matter if you are rich or poor, where you live, or your age.
Infidelity can exist in your home, and you can be its victim.
Cheaters cheat for several different reasons but it is very
important to remember if your spouse is indeed having an affair
that it is NOT your fault. It is extremely common for the
infidel to try to place the blame on you. Saying things like "I
wouldn't have done it if"... or "You refuse to do this, so"....
Attempts to shift the blame is nothing but the persons guilt
spontaneously combusting during a stressful situation. Life is
about choices and it was not your choice for your mate to cheat,
it was theirs.
If you want proof, it is highly recommended that you do hire a
professional. What you plan on doing with any evidence that you
obtain is your choice. Whether it is seeking counseling or a
matrimonial attorney, nobody can tell you what choice is the
best.
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